and everything in between… Wife, Mom, Sister, Friend

Im A Girl Up For A Challenge January 11, 2014

Filed under: S2S Coffee Hour,Sassy2Savvy Blog — sassy2savvy @ 10:52 AM

blog challenge

     I am always up for a challenge and I don’t know a better challenge then one that will refocus my attention to doing what I love. I am committing to 52 weeks of writing on the topics given in this challenge. You know that I am a girl who loves creativity, so I hope to use these topic in the most creative ways that will bring smiles, laughs, and maybe even a few tears.

    Move over “tabloids” people are realizing that there is more to life then 30 day weddings and unreal expectations. Blogs are the new “IN” read. Many blogs share the lives of real people doing real things that matter. I love reading other blogs about real woman who are accomplishing motherhood in many creative ways, people who are traveling to places I dream of visiting, workout articles that are obtainable and healthy. Blogs share all areas of ones interests, the good, the bad, and the ugly. In most blogs there is no room for airbrushed faux lifestyles.

     As a wife, mother, sister and friend I write to encourage and inspire. I write to share my messy stories of life as well as my accomplishments of life so readers will get a real raw understanding of what an organized mess I really am. But none the less my family and I know the importance of  do-overs, loving one another, working hard, and laughing a lot. I am not perfect and that’s okay. I have a God that loves me just the way I am!


Always Defining Who I Am January 4, 2014

Filed under: Daily Devotion,S2S Coffee Hour,Sassy2Savvy Blog — sassy2savvy @ 3:50 PM

Picture taken by a good friend and photographer.

The New Year can sometimes can be so paralyzing, it screams “CHANGE” in so many ways. People making resolutions to change this or that; becoming thinner, becoming stronger, quit smoking, stop using credit cards. I found this New Year that I had so many ideas of what I wanted to, who I wanted to be, and where I wanted to go that the last four days of the New Year has been so mentally exhausting that I could not even find the energy to move off the couch. If you know anything about me I spend most of my time in full throttle and I slow down on rare occasion. This last week I had so many ideas that I analyzed all the possibilities before I even started that I paralyzed myself from even beginning. This week has been mentally draining without any accomplishment.

Today as I thought about it, I came to the conclusion that I don’t have to have all the answers or know the exact direction. If I am living for the sole purpose to bring God glory then I just have to take the first step and He will direct my placement and path. You see we are always defining ourselves. It’s not just at the beginning of the year or the middle of the year but each day we wake up we are defining something about ourselves. Do not get me wrong I look to the New Year with great anticipation and believe that resolutions give individuals goals which then provides direction. With my type A personality, New Years is a chance to organize my thoughts and come up with actions. But what I don’t need to do is believe that it is the only time of the year that I can create change or make goals. And I don’t have to have all the answers, as the answers will come. And if I am afraid of failing then my goals are bigger then me but not bigger then God so I have great goals.

So I am no longer paralyzed, but will vow to put one foot in front of the other. I will wake up knowing that I am daily defining who I am and knowing I serve a mighty and powerful God. I don’t need all the answers of how I am going to get there just the FAITH to believe that He will direct my path.

“May the Lord direct your hearts into God’s love and Christ’s perseverance.” 2 Thessalonians 3:5


Learning To Be Still (Refuel, Recharge, and Reexamine) November 11, 2013

Filed under: S2S Coffee Hour,Sassy2Savvy Blog — sassy2savvy @ 1:00 PM

Coffee Hour HeartOh how I have missed sitting down at my computer, its been too long. It is so funny how time can race by and we get caught up in its current that we forget at times to do what we enjoy, and not what the world tells us we enjoy. I am one fast paced moving mama and I forget just how important it is to be still and take the time to recharge. This weekend I have had a lot of time to be still (I was hardly still but in being still means I did not have any place to go and stayed within the confinement of my home most of the weekend). So often my house becomes nothing more than a shell. I was convicted that my house, needs not to be a shell but a home that rejuvenated and refreshes. We come in and throw out bags down, just to run to the next activity. I will say that our dinners are taken serious and most nights (at least 5) are eaten together as a family (our only still time). When I am moving, I forget how much I have been blessed with, what my kids voices really sound like. I stopped and sat with my three-year old as she just went on and on and I savored her sweet voice because all too soon she will be grown and I will forget.  How many of you can relate to this?

This last year has been quite a journey for my husband and I. I have felt guilty that I have let so many years go by that I forgot that marriage takes work. We both just go with the flow that we forget how important it is to date your spouse. How important it is to sit down and talk.  It takes time to stop, pause and reflect. Paul and I have done a lot of reflecting, pausing, working, and we still have so far to go, but it has felt so good to really partner with my husband, to enjoy my husband (yes, I want to harm him sometimes!) But when I take time to reexamine that man I married, the hard-working father he is to our girls, my heart starts to become over whelmed with the feeling of love, not just the choice of love. When I let the world around me go so fast and dictate my every move I forget or become desensitized by the power of our relationship. When we are closer and on the same page our girls seem more relaxed, when we work together and run our errands together we get to sneak some time in to enjoy each others presence. It is amazing how just one weekend in doors together can make you see things so much clearer.

So I think I will be aware of getting in some quite time, because when I get time to refuel, recharge, and reexamine, some things make so much more sense! Have a great day friends. Remember that you too need to be recharged.

Be still before the Lord, all mankind, because he has roused himself from his holy dwelling. Zechariah 2:13


Not My Smart Phone January 9, 2013

Filed under: S2S Coffee Hour,Sassy2Savvy Blog — sassy2savvy @ 12:42 PM

 Not My Smart Phone

imagesCAC4JFWMWhile sitting in the doctor’s office the other day, I began to look around at all the people. I am not sure what I felt more in shock over, the fact that everyone was on some kind of technical savvy device (iPad, iPod, iPhone, smart phone, reader) or the fact that no conversations were going on because everyone’s faces were shoved so deep into their devices. OH MY!!! My heart sunk as I realized I was not one to judge because I to was guilty! While my three-year old sat next to me on her little computer, I sat on my phone.  I had no interaction with her just an occasional glance up to make sure she was okay and didn’t need anything.

Really, was I that self-absorbed with what I thought was so important that I did not spend crucial minutes with my daughter that I had been given. This time could have been used to invest in her, to encourage her, to read to her, to communicate with her. I began to reflect how much time I spend on social media, games, or even texting. If I would take that time and invest that into my family, I wonder just how much deeper relationships we could develop. I wonder if my girls would crave my attention less because they felt secure with the amount of time I spent with them vs. the time I spent on my phone or other device.

What will this world would be like when my girls become my age. I am scared by what I saw at the doctor’s office because if we continue as a society to keep our heads down into these devices, we as people will miss out on life. What about the power of a smile, or a hello? What will happen to the value of conversation? What will happen to the relationships in our homes? I hate to admit this but I know at times my girls feel devalued by the time I put into my phone or computer. NO LONGER, I AM TAKING A STAND.

For now on this family will feel valued, will communicate, laugh and giggle, and even disagree but we will do it with the appreciation of one another. How could I have gotten so involved that I fell victim to the “Smart Era.” Its time to reclaim priorities and invest into the lives that will give back one day…

114208540519951558_sHQO1J7s_cIf this made you think, wiggle in your seat, or question when the last time at an appointment you and yours had a great heart to heart conversation, then maybe you will be challenged like I was. In no way do I think these devices are wrong, as like I said above I LOVE mine, however I do believe they are wrong when priorities of life fall to the wayside.


Demands of Deployment (A spouses story) July 16, 2012

Filed under: S2S Coffee Hour,Sassy2Savvy Blog — sassy2savvy @ 4:01 PM

Deployment day comes and it’s time to say goodbye. You dress the kids up in their best outfits and head out to the pier where you wave goodbye, wiping the tears from your eye only to stay as strong as possible for the little ones. One might think that this would be the hardest day but a military spouse might disagree. The hardest days are the ones where the air conditioning goes out, one of the kids busts out their two front teeth, and you realize you have a flat tire all in the same day. These days are the challenging ones. The day you wave goodbye is actually a relief because you can finally start counting down the days to homecoming. The stress and anxiety that was built the last couple of weeks while preparing for deployment is released when your service member pulls away.

As a proud military wife of three deployments, I have learned the importance of being prepared while your service member deploys. It is the service member’s responsibility to stay focused on the mission and the spouse’s responsibility to carry on the duties and everyday rigamarole of home life.

It is important as a military spouse to first tell yourself that not everything will go how you want it to. It is important to admit to yourself that “you are not perfect and will make mistakes” during deployment. For example, this last deployment my family experienced, I was so overwhelmed with unloading the groceries from the car that I left my youngest inside (only for a few minutes, before I realized she was missing). I cried for a week to think that I could have left a child in the car and not realized it, but then I had to let go of the guilt and make some adjustments to make sure it never happened again, as I still had four more months of deployment left.

Each challenge will make you a little stronger and build that much more character. Here are just a few things one can do as a military spouse to help with the demands of deployment.

  • Get Busy. It’s important to still have a life even though a part of the family is missing. Keeping normalcy is important for the kids but staying busy is also important for the spouse’s health. Make a list of to-dos that you might want to accomplish before the deployment is over. For example, this last deployment I had a goal to participate in a “Tough Mudder,” which is a mud and obstacle race. It took training and focus but, before I knew it, my race was approaching and the deployment was more than halfway over. Make sure to get the kids involved in planning a schedule so they too will have something to look forward to or work towards.
  • Split up the deployment into four quarters and plan a trip or event for each quarter. For example, the first quarter my family took a camping trip over Memorial Day weekend with other families. The kids had something to look forward to and this caused a distraction as to how many days were left until dad came home. The second quarter, grandparents came to visit and we planned events around town to share with our company, and again had a blast while more time passed us by.
  • Find Support. As a military spouse, support is so important. Creating a good support system can either make  or break a deployment. Many people are willing to help if you just let them. It is important to admit we cannot do everything alone. For example, when my mother had a heart attack, it was friends that stepped up and watched my girls so I could tend to my mom. It was friends that invited me and my girls on family outings and got us out of our house. Having other adults to talk to and relate with is important. Finding support can be as easy as making a phone call to support groups for military spouses. Also great places to seek out are churches, book clubs, and play groups. I found most of my support through church friends and my daughter’s soccer team.
  • Get Involved. All services have some form of F.R.G (Family Readiness Group). This group keeps you up-to-date with everything that has to do with your service member. This group will plan events and social outings, send out monthly email updates as to how your service member’s unit is doing, and provide support in times of emergency at home. I attended most monthly meetings and was informed of all the latest news.
  • Take Time to Grow. There are a lot of times when being a spouse, parent, or friend take up all of our time, and days or even a few minutes of quiet time is scarce. I know as a mom of two energetic girls and wife to a military husband, I don’t always get time to sit and reflect on me. Deployments are great for focusing on “me time”. I read new books, watch movies that I wanted to watch (of course when the kids went to bed) and spent time reflecting on what I liked or might want to change about myself. Keeping in mind that deployments are stressful and can be quite a load on one’s shoulders, it’s very important to have quiet moments to reflect.
  • Keep Your Service Member Close. Make sure to always keep your service member close. You can do this through taking family pictures before deployment and then posting current up-to-date pictures in the house. Prepare boxes to send to your service member. My girls loved that they could prepare a box for dad and then decorate the outside (send a box at least once a month). Stay in touch through email, even if your service member can’t write as much as you might hope. Writing to them creates the reality that they are still there and a part of your life.

Being a military spouse takes a special person. It takes dedication and selflessness. It is nights and days alone, being a single parent, while also paying the bills, mending boo-boos, and helping with homework. It means being both mommy and daddy, even on the days that you are just too tired. Getting though deployment is an accomplishment to be proud of. When you become a military spouse you do not get a manual that tells you how to feel, how to act, or what to do. However, being a military spouse comes with honor, humbleness, and complete pride in the cause you are serving and supporting.


The Dinner Table: On the Endangered List April 24, 2012

Filed under: S2S Coffee Hour — sassy2savvy @ 4:19 PM

The Dinner Table: On the Endangered List

Families today are so busy; homework and after school activities dominate the schedules. Occasionally throw in an orthodontic appointment or a piano lesson and the family schedule is over loaded. Many of us have been conditioned to handle a schedule so tight, but something usually has to fall to the way side.

With the demand of a busy schedule, family meal time is usually what gets shafted. This is not to say that our kids are eating badly or that we as moms are not meeting the needs of our children’s diets, this is just talking about the way that we spend our time while eating. The dinner table has been but on the endangered list for quite sometime. Will our children know the value of eating as a family in ten, twenty, even thirty years from now?

Many of us can remember shows like Leave It to Beaver, where family meals happened around the dinner table at least two times a day. The kids would come down to a well-prepared breakfast and dad would be sitting there with his newspaper, mom (Mrs. Cleaver) would be filling the juice glasses, as the boys sat down as if they had all the time in the world the air was filled with laughter and conversation. I know that television is just television and many of the things we watch are not realistic. However, just as the Cleaver family sat around the dinner table, so did many American families years ago. Dinner time around the table was priority before most functions.

Now, let me be real with you for a second, in my house we do not eat around the dinner table every night, due to our schedule of soccer, church, and other various activities. However, I will say that we sit down around the table with everyone present at least three times a week. So I would have to say three out of seven is not horribly bad and is a start. There are many families out there that I know that have never eaten a meal at their kitchen table. This is not to judge them in any way as they are all pretty amazing families, however I believe there are valuable lessons our children learn as they sit around the table at dinner time. What happens at a dinner table when you sit down to eat?

Conversation is one activity that many of us usually partake in while eating. Asking your child about his/her day, not only shows you are taking an interest in the day to day activities that are happening on the play ground or in the halls of the high school but it is also requiring your child to open up and talk to you. I find that I try and ask questions that require more then a yes or no answer. This requires my child to make eye contact and speak, which helps them build very important communication skills. Many of our kids today have a hard time making eye contact or feeling comfortable enough to carry on a conversation with an adult. I find many of the kids I run into, speak to the ground or look in an entirely different direction while carrying on a conversation. Communicating skills are taught and then developed from practice.

The value of family is also a great lesson to learn. In a country where the divorce rate is ridicules and still climbing, the value of the family unit can be over shadowed. Not every family will have both mom and dad, but teaching the value of unity is very important no matter what your family dynamic is and there are not many places as fun as the dinner table where one can eat and share in time together. Eating together as a family creates a safe place for families to discuss topics of interest. It’s a time that everyone is at attention so new ideas can be shared or discussed. I believe that dinner time should be a positive experience and not used for lectures or fighting. Keeping it upbeat and the family will keep coming back.

At the dinner table young children develop a longer attention span. It’s a time where they are forced to sit in one spot for a longer period of time. Keeping them involved in conversation helps keep their attention. Every time my family and I sit at the dinner table we play a game known as the “Hooray of the day, and the doom/gloom of the day.” This gets everyone talking.

I think that we can save the “dinner table,” if we can see the importance it has on the entire family but most of all the importance it has on our child’s development. I know I only have my kids for a short time and before I know it they will be grown and on their own, so making a lasting impression at dinner is important to me. We have made many memories at our dinner table and my kids will grow up knowing of its importance. I would love you to share your comments or stories that you may have around your dinner table.

**A great study,, on the impact of family meals and how it relates to educational success in kids and the decreasing chances of kids being affected by peer pressures like; smoking, drinking, and drugs.



Your Husband, Your Investment March 8, 2012

Filed under: S2S Coffee Hour,Uncategorized — sassy2savvy @ 10:00 AM

Coffee Hour Discussion #2

This week I will be celebrating my tenth-year anniversary with the most important man in my life. However, I think it took me quite a few years to treat him like the investment he is to our family. You are probably wondering, why I am referring to our relationship as an investment. I know it sounds like a business deal and not a marriage but I think once you read my story you will understand like in a business, investing brings fourth rewards but these rewards are not of monetary value, it’s far better!!!

Last spring I read a book, “His Needs, Her Needs”, it was a pivotal turning point in my view of a relationship. The author, Willard F. Jr. Harley can seem to come across as intense, however I am a firm believer that there is always something (a pearl I like to call it) that can be taken from any book and applied to life for the better.

The pearl from this particular book is; in your daily relationships with people, you are making love deposits (meaning filling their love bank) or love withdrawals (meaning taking from their love bank). When you add to a man’s self-esteem (what man does not like to be told he is wonderful, amazing, and the best) then you are investing in him as a person and respecting the needs he has. When a man’s love bank is full he then starts reinvesting because he has the assurance of love and respect from his wife. No I am not a love doctor, nor am I really a mushy person, this just made so much sense to me and I wanted to share.

You know it’s a GREAT book when you stop thinking wow he really needs to read this book, and start thinking OMG, I think this book is yelling at me to create change(yeah I don’t like reality checks) but this one was great and what a huge return I received on our relationship and marriage. So the more I started making deposits within his love bank (notes of encouragement, hugs and kisses, words of affirmation, prayer) and the less I withdrew (nagging, putting down, not respecting his ideas and thoughts) then I started seeing a man who was more secure, a man who was more loving, and a man who was much more sensitive to my own needs (BINGO, see ladies it does give back). Now the book really grabbed my attention, when the book started talking about when I am not making love deposits, then who is making them in my place. I don’t know about you, but us woman can be pretty territorial and I do not think I want someone else depositing when all I am doing is withdrawing (Yikes!!!)

I was very fortunate when I told my husband how much this book changed my whole attitude on marriage that he also wanted to read it. It is a common joke in our home to say “Wow, that was a great deposit” or “Ouch” withdrawal. But the point is we are both more aware of the remarks and small gestures that will pick one up or tear one down. We strive to make many more deposits than withdrawals daily, and this has been so rewarding with priceless returns.

So, my question to you is, are you making deposits or withdrawals??? Sometimes it is very difficult to realize that maybe “I” need to make some changes, but what a huge blessing it has been.

Happy 10th Year Anniversary to an amazing man, who has encouraged me, loved me unconditionally and walked this journey with me side by side. We have learned so much and you are my partner, best friend and soul mate. (3-9-2002)

It is more blessed to give than to receive (Acts 20:35)

(Reference) His Needs, Her Needs: By Willard F. Jr. Harley, Willard F. Harley, Jr. – Baker Publishing Group (2011)


What’s Piqued Your Pinterst? February 24, 2012

Filed under: S2S Coffee Hour — sassy2savvy @ 7:37 PM

What’s Piqued Your Pinterest?

I have a secret to tell you… Are you ready? Can you handle the suspense?

Well there is a new world out there that people are plugging into. It is the world of CREATIVITY. Okay it is not a new world, but a world where not many dare to go. Economic times are causing families to pinch their pennies, which in turns challenges our minds to get what we want in a more SAVVY and creative way.

Within this new world of creativity people are being introduced to technological advancements which allow one the ability to pull millions of ideas from a database. Individuals who believe they do not carry a creative bone in their body are stepping out and creating from these databases of ideas.

There are not many days that go by that you will not hear me say the word “Pinterest.” In turn there are not many days when I don’t hear someone ask me “What is Pinterest”. So I figured I would take my first coffee hour and tell you about this incredible resource that will have you saving money, creating new ideas, and feeling a sense of accomplishment.

Pinterest is a website that was designed for the purpose of pinning ideas. We all can relate to surfing the web, becoming over whelmed with so many ideas that when we leave we forget what we saw and how to get back to that particular spot. Pinterest allows people to pin (save) ideas or websites in a database (called Pinterest is a collaboration of people’s pins that make up millions of ideas in picture form (pictures are linked to the websites as the reference). I don’t know about you but I am a visual person; I usually don’t attempt to make much unless I have a picture to follow (which is why I love this site).

To get started pinning ideas and sharing your own, you must create an account at . To create an account you must be invited by a friend who is already pinning (I would love to invite you, just leave your email address). Pinterest will then send you an Evite to create an account.  Once your account is made, then you will start creating your own profile made up of boards, pins, and likes. I know I just started speaking a new language. Let’s break it down…

Pins: ideas that you save from the database to store in your profile.

Boards: Are categories (like files) that allow you to organize your pins. For example I have a board titled “Food”; this is where I store all my pins that have anything to do with food; recipe ideas, pictures of food, or entertainment or catering ideas. I also have a board titled “Kids”; this is where all my ideas go that have anything to do with kids (Games, décor, etc.)

Likes: is when you give attention to an idea by hitting the “Like” button.


So have I overwhelmed you yet? You could be asking yourself now, “Where do I go to start pinning”. Well that depends on your interest, everyone goes to “Explore” which gives you all kinds of ideas, however if you are like me and know what your interests are, then you might try exploring just in your field of interest; DIY and Crafts, Kids, Food, Decorating.

Like anything else, you won’t know the advantage of this site until you try it. Let me warn you, it can be addicting! Have fun learning new ideas, creating your own ideas to share, and exploring new possibilities. For example this weekend my girls and I are making our own powder laundry detergent (blog to follow). It lasts for seven months, saves money, and is great for the environment. I think that is a SCORE of a pin!!!

I would love to hear what you like about Pinterest. Share any ideas I might have missed. Share your favorite pins and please let me know if this was helpful.


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